Topic: Travel and Starfish
I was thinking of going to Australia in the fall. Then, I had a conversation w/ a friend who just got back from 6mos. of travelling, her boyfriend is from Argentina and they spent 6 weeks there. Argentina sounds like a good place to go.
Yesturday, my roommate’s friend came out w/ us, he’s been playing tennis around the world, in Spain and Venezuela. The other day a camp friend of mine just returned from 7 months in Israel, teaching English. And…I still have a friend in New Zealand, in his 3rd year of travel since college.
I think when you’re travelling, every place becomes special. The food store you shop at, the mall, the buses and taxis. Even days when you do nothing, are still exciting. You can just wake up and think to yourself, “holy shit, i’m in Africa,” or wherever you are. And it raises every experience to another level.
I’ll admit, the only thing really holding me back from living abroad indefinately is family. When I go out and know that I’m only going to be around Americans, it makes me think, “i know there’s more out there, i want to experience it.” I want to be around accents, and rugby, and soccer, and new words, and new foods, and new attitudes.
Have you ever spoken to someone who has said, “I’m lucky to live where I live?” People who live in a place that’s truly worthy of people to come and visit? Maybe it’s near a beautiful beach, a city of music, a city w/ a buzz. A city where everyone somehow is in agreement that they’re not just random people in a city, but that they’re random people in a special place. Places where most people will have shared a common experience, where there’s certain things that are must-do for the area. Here’s a few places that make my list
Whistler, British Columbia
Coffee Bay, South Africa
Cape Town, SA
Boulder, Colorado
St. Louis, Mo. (in the spring)
Granada, Spain
San Sabastian, Spain
London, England
NYC
These are places where I’ve felt that each day I want to explore. I want to hike, I want to find a cafe, I want to find a bar, I want to hop on a bus somewhere, I want to open up the guide book and see what else there is.
Well…right now I’m in Baltimore, and so I’m going to the one place where I can have it all. The Barnes & Nobles travel section.
Also…I left a comment on this site regarding a post about waste and the wealthy.
There’s a story my camp director used to tell about starfish, i forget exactly how it goes. But…it involves a boy on a beach, where tons and tons of starfish have been washed up on shore. The boy is picking up a starfish, one at a time, and tossing it back into the sea. Another person comes back and says, “Why are you wasting your time, you’ll never get all the starfish back into the water? You’re not making any real difference, what you’re doing really doesn’t matter.” The boy responds, “It matters to that starfish!”
So…is that the point really? The world is full of beached starfish, some of us work to help the individual starfish, some of us work to address the whole problem. If the rich spent their money on helping starfish instead of on trips around the world in fancy planes, the problem would be solved, and those who are picking up starfish one-by-one would feel as if they’re making a bigger difference.
It does tug at my heart a bit knowing that less materialism and more humanitarianism would help a lot of people. But…people choose to do different things with their time and money. Cristo decided to make people happy through a $21 million dollar art project (although the NYT reports that number may be inflated…although i couldn’t see the reason or newsworthiness of the article).
The issue at hand is the attitude of the person making a critique. “Schools are bad!” “The rich are uncaring cheap bastards!” Only through that kind of anger will improvements be found, but, there will always be starfish left behind, so how do we find a balance between anger and humanitarian work out of idealism, and pleasure and apathy out of an acceptance than we’re not going to achieve the ideal.
I haven’t thought this issue out all the way through. What I’m trying to piece together is how to fight for good in the world, while also accepting the bad.
I need to re-read Nick Hornby’s book, “How to Be Good.” It describes a person who become truly altruistic, literally giving away everything to help those who need it, to the point that even those w/ good hearts view him as a bit crazy.
How do we reconcile our good hearts, with our desire to enjoy life? Our desire to lash out at those who spend lavishly, while we still embrace some degree of materialism? If we are to criticize a person for not using their wealth to help the starfish, are we not also to criticize a person for not using their time to help the starfish? How do we reconcile the fact that we might help the life of one starfish, but, ultimately, starfish live and starfish die, regardless? Unless we address the underlying manner in which starfish co-exist, we will continue to have the tragedy of beached starfish…should we spend out lives desperately scambling to help as many into the water as possible, knowing there will only be more, or is it ok to accept the fact that w/out a systematic change, helping one is as “good,” as helping many? Again…the idea of all things in life being relative reveals itself.
I think systematic change requires leadership…either in the political or non-political realm. There’s no question that Bush has a bigger responsibility than a celebrity to use their money to address social issues. Obviously, the amount speant on the inauguration in a time of great world need following the tsunami, represented not just waste, but represented a message that addressing hunger and victims of natural disasters isn’t really as important as we say.
I think this post is actually leading to a point…the point being that anger tends to be used in an unproductive manner. Are you a complainer, or are you someone who is doing something to lessen the need for the complaint to exist. To complain about how the rich waste their money, to me is just complaining about the rich. What’s the solution. Are you arguing that they should be taxed more (either their income or their extravagant purchases?) so that extravagant wealth and spending can be used to address social ills? Or…are you arguing that gov’t money should be used in a more efficient manner to address social ills instead of things like propaganda and inaugural balls (not sure if the inauguration was paid for by us or privately?).
The ultimate question is, what are you doing w/ your anger?
A couple of years ago…I decided that the first thing I would do w/ my anger, is to be self-reflective. It’s easier to criticize others than to look w/in. I realized I needed to make sure I was living fully, before I could worry about others. I also realized that I was in no position to ever really judge others (1…because i’m not perfect, and 2…because you never know the full extent of a person, if someone grew up rich and that’s all they know, then i can’t judge them, just as i won’t judge a pro-athlete who lived in the slums for now enjoying the material life), and the best I could do was to lead by example. This is important not only because if you’re not setting an example to follow, then your complaints are hollow, but also, as a practical matter, it’s more useful to pander to those you seek to change, than to anger them. After a while…you come to see all the rich and political elite as evil, when, in actuality, those are the very people you’re going to want to help push your cause. After my anger subsided from being lashed at towards others, and then focused on myslef, I ultimately came to realize that it is the system (which for me represents the education system), that needs to be addressed. You can’t change people, but you can hope to change the system that produces the types of people we see today.
So…to dharmabum if you’re reading this, I didn’t mean in anyway to lessen your anger, or to pass any judgement on you. I applaud your beliefs, I share your beliefs, but I just wanted to give you some perspective on what to do w/ them.